Old flames vol.2

A broken record, this is like a broken record, playing the same tune over and over again. An endless cycle that consists of certain steps which will always lead to the same outcome.
Apparently, you get to revisit your past, but you don't get to redefine it. No, you don't! Prejudiced as you are, you just get to revisit it and literary screw it, but not redefine it. It goes something like this, talk, screw, boom, blow up, not talk.
Why is that I got wondering, is it because whatever drove you apart once will obviously drive you apart again? Are you such opposites that the just isn't an in between? In the same sense shouldn't it work the other way around? Or are you just bound to operate under a prejudiced belief that nothing can ever change, when in reality, you are the one not changing it.
Frankly, it's up to you, how you handle things, if you choose to view someone depending on how they acted in the past, of course you will never move forward! Our past shouldn't define and doom us. The fact that you're already acquainted with someone doesn't necessarily mean you don't get to meet them again and it doesn't mean you already know everything there is to know about them.
You don't need to skip the intro, as if there is no normality to be, as if there is no reason to be as much as friendly to someone. It doesn't give you a free pass to be indefferent to any other aspect of each others life. Normality, you meet someone, you actually talk, you go for a coffee, a drink, a swim, a movie, anything freaking close to normal!
And if you cannot be even close to normal, you leave the past in the past! There is no point in rekindling old flames while practically throwing water onto them.
You need to learn to differentiate, the past is the past, the present is the present and the future will be the future, and neither is defined by the other.
For this to work , the broken record needs to stop playing, for this to not blow up in your face again, you need to change your view completely and go at it differently.