The Concept Of Fear

What is fear, someone might ask. Some people believe that fear is a defenωe mechanism, showing us that the path we walk is wrong. Others claim that fear is a weakness of our brain, making us vulnerable to attacks in a physical and emotional level. My belief is kinda different. I believe that everything is a matter of perspective. Fear is something like yin and yang. We need it and we don't. Fear own us  and we own fear. The thing is that, fear can destroy us but we cannot destroy fear. Every single human being walking this planet called earth has a fear. Nobody is fearless and immune and this is totally fine. However our perspective in fear are distorted. Everyone and everything is afraid of something but we never stop and try to think about what others fear, we only think about what we fear. We are afraid of spiders. Maybe spiders are scared too. We are afraid to love, to laugh and live life. Why are we afraid?  Is it because we are scared of the blurry future that unravels in front of us? Maybe it is because we are actually afraid of love and smiles. Everyone has issues and fears. Love, life, smiles, death and much more. I am afraid of love too. I've tried to search so hard why I am so scared

. All these years I've searched and searched but a solution was nowhere to be found. Until now. Until today. "Why is everyone afraid of love"? I thought. It's not because we are scared of the concept of love. We are scared of being rejected. We are not afraid of people because they scare us. We are afraid that nobody will like us. When something is gone, we cannot accept the fact that it is gone. This is what actually scares us. The fact that it is gone or that we cannot let go is irrelevant. That's what really hurts our heart. Then we need to try again and love again and we are scared once again. Scared that we will get hurt for the exact same reason as the last time. Chained and doomed to relive the past again and again. Mistakes and errors, rights and wrongs in an endless neverending loop without escape. All in the name of fear. There are people of course that have a condition called ''Hypophobia'' which is the absense of fear. They are completely fearless and this can contribute to some devastating and extremely bad decisions. Me on the other hand, I was always afraid. Afraid of change, commitment, betrayal and I was always and I still try to over think every single step I take in my life. Fear is a thing that brings back your survival insticts. It has to do with survival even though it doesnt seem like a useful feeling. When we are scared of something that appears as innocent, when we have this feeling of something bad is going to happen if we choose this or that then we are probably right. The bad side of this scenario is that sometimes you have to be wrong to live what you want. I was quite scared when I decided to leave my country and come to the UK and study what I always wanted to study, which is law. Yet I did it and even though I am struggling currently, I do not regret my decision. As one grows up, more phobias develop through the years. More phobias means more obstacles and more obstacles means that we need to find the strength and a way to overcome them. That fine too. This is what makes us develop to something greater. This is exactly what unlocks our potential to reach and break our limits and stand on top of things.

What happens when fear gets in the way of love? If love exists of course. What happens when you are swept off your feet by someone but too scared to tell him or her? When your mind is frozen and trapped in the fear of rejection and risk. It seems like there is no way out but things are quite simple. You just have to go and reject these phobias. Yolo might be an annoying phrase but it is actually true. If we live in fear of rejection and risk, we cannot move forward and that's bad. Like, really bad. I'm not saying that everything has to be like that of course. Yet, sometimes we do not need our brain. We need our hearts. If you feel that the specifc person is your puzzle piece that has been missing all this time then go for it. Try your luck. Try to make it happen. Some feelings with a dose of realism will make you overcome the fear yet make you not have so many expectations. Maybe it will work, maybe it wont. Both are fine. We regret 100% of things we don't do and we miss 100% of the shots we do not make. So, go for it. At the end of the day, if you fail at least you tried. You may discover new things about your self and your limits. You will definitely feel good even if it feels bad for some time. Rejection can be hard but knowing deep inside you that it might work out and never doing it is worse.

As Nelson Mandela said ''I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not the one who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers fear''.